Let’s Talk About: Dating Yourself

I saw this question and did a little happy dance because the answer, for me, was a week ago (about a week ago, a week ago…anybody? Bueller? I’ll let myself out…).

I take myself on a date at least once a month. I’m a huge advocate for self-care and the concept of dating yourself. I think it’s quite important that we take time out of the day/week/month to care for ourselves. It could be as simple as taking time to read a book for a half hour to really gettin’ on some Eat Pray Love stuff and taking a trip somewhere.

For me, it means filling my spiritual tank with church; getting my zen on via a monthly facial; and a little bit of screen time (either by watching a movie or bingeing on some YouTube). By the time I go to bed, I’m ready for the week to come! I’ve experienced more emotional and mental trauma than I’d like to admit in the past, so I make sure that I keep self-care at the forefront of my mind.

For someone like me, it can be “easy” for me to put time aside to take care of moi. I don’t know what it’s like to be a parent, to constantly be pulled by the babies, BUT! It is insanely important that parents (especially moms) find time for themselves. Remember, you didn’t come out the womb a wife, a mom or a caretaker. You came out as YOU. It may be difficult; but my friend, please please PLEASE find time for yourself!

I’ve realized that as we become older, it becomes even more important to take care of ourselves. In a world where we are constantly on the go, we forget about ourselves…we end up running ourselves into the ground, wondering where the time went. But as soon as we take the time to stop, relax, and recharge, a sense of relief rushes over like a flood. It’s ok to say no to him/her/it/them, sis. And if people give you a hard time because YOU decided to take care of YOURSELF without their help, give them a nice ol’ side eye and keep it moving.

I don’t know if I mentioned this after the long hiatus I took, but 2019’s word is SELF-CARE. It will certainly become a subject that regularly makes an appearance on this platform. It’s near and dear to me and I hope, that it becomes the same for you.


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