I’ve thought long and hard about venturing into this world on my blog and I think it’s about time…
We live in a digital age where friendships and relationships are starting at the tip of our fingertips. In order to find friends or find love, we’re swiping right and going on dating shows – you know, the yuge.
I typically talk about all things health and fitness, faith, positivity, etc., but one thing that people may not know about me is that I’m a huge skeptic when it comes to relationships. I’ll tell ya why…
I have a lot of friends, but it took some times to get to where I’m at now. In the past, I’ve had to “break up” with friends because of random stuff (one-sided relationships, vicious character, etc.). So I tend to withhold my trust in someone when they try to become my friend. I typically keep them at arm’s length because it’s easier. And as we get older, I find that it’s even MORE difficult putting trust in people. When you hit a certain age, not that I think I’m old or super wise, you get to a point where the friendships you have are the ones you’ll most likely keep. If you make new friends, it’s probably because of convenience. Not that that’s a bad thing!
It’s something that I grapple with regularly being so far away from my home network. I’ve never felt lonely here because of that network (thank you Lawd!). However, I can’t hang with my besties, my family or my kiddies, so I’m forced to make due. I used to feel bad if I didn’t seek deep, meaningful relationships with folks, but I’m realizing that that’s ok. If those meaningful relationships happen, great! If they don’t, that’s cool too. My motto with any relationship, friend or boo, is to let them happen naturally, organically.
So, dating, love, relationships, BF/GF stuff, marriage, husband/wife crap…you know THAT stuff. I don’t talk about this stuff AT ALL – just ask “my network”. They’ll tell you that they know about some of the guys I’ve dated, but they don’t know EVERYTHING. I’m an open book to a certain extent – the extent being my relationships. This is one area in my life where I value my privacy because, quite frankly, it’s no one’s business who I’m dating.
Sometimes people thought I was trying to hide my men if I didn’t talk about them publicly like many people these days do. The truth of the matter is, I’m private haha! Sometimes (and I would feel bad about it) I would lie and say ‘No’ if someone asked me if I was dating someone. I didn’t want to field questions and have people all up in my business about it. For the better part of a decade, my answer was no when in actuality, it was a resounding, constant yes (hehe! Oops sorry folks…or am I??). If I feel comfortable revealing that part of my life to you, I will, otherwise, back up or it’s 2 chops to the throat (I kid…kinda).
But, I decided that I would start to become more open about my experiences, with both friendships and relationships, but primarily focus on relationships. I won’t reveal every little juicy detail regarding my relationships, but I think it would help some folks out and be a great way to start some dialogue. My goal with this series of blog posts is create a space where people can freely talk about their experiences without judgement. These experiences happened for a reason and I think that reason is to be the voice for those who are afraid to speak.
So, this blog post was an introduction into the world of Dee’s relationships. Next week, I’ll dive into the biggest topic of all (well, at least to me it is) – online dating! Dun, dun, DUNNNNNNN!
And after reading all that nonsense, you may be wondering, “Well, is Dee in a relationship??” Welp, the answer is, No. But…you get to decide whether I’m telling the truth or not…