Now that the chaos of V-Day has died down, I figured I could talk about something that is quite personal and sensitive for me. This won’t be the first/last time I talk about this but I’m not going to divulge every little detail about my love life to the world (as much as folks would want me to).
I don’t normally talk about dating/love/relationships because I’m quite cynical/skeptical of them all. I do believe in love and yes, I’ve been in love, but the analytical, rational, logical part of me constantly tells me that this whole thing just makes no sense.
I’ve been with a lot of people…and I mean A LOT. More than I anticipated to, but that’s the way the cookie crumbles, right?
Some of the situations I’ve been in have been in the range of either emotionally exhausting to just a fling. There were people that I was involved with that I thought, nay, KNEW for sure I was going to marry and others that I knew were going to end right then and there. Ugh, it’s so exhausting, folks.
I get asked probably on a bi-weekly basis if I have a boyfriend or if I’m dating or this or that. My answer is this: “I’m somewhere in-between super single and married” (haha!). In other words, who I’m with is none of the world’s business.
The only one that I can tolerate asking me that question is my grandmother, who is quickly approaching 90 years old. She’s from a different time, so it’s understandable as to why she’d ask me this question every time I talk to her. But even then, I have to express to her that the only time I’ll announce to the world of my boyfriend is when we’re getting married and even then, we’ll probably already be married (that just shows how private I am and I’m all about dat elopement doeeeee – more on that in later posts!)…
I remember telling a guy I was with that I didn’t talk about dating/relationships with anyone. He looked at me funny and said, “Wait, are you trying to hide me??” I said, “No, I just don’t feel like everyone needs to be all in my business. If they find out, they find out; but I’m not making an announcement”. I have lots of eyes on me and I just don’t feel like it’s necessary to announce my business to the world.
I’m on just about every social media platform you can think of and I constantly see couples just ogling each other up online. It makes me gag. I don’t understand the point of giving everyone a play by play of your relationship. Maybe I’m just strange or got something missing on the inside, but it’s weird, annoying, and just stupid (I feel the same way about people who post a crap-ton of things about their kids or normalizing breastfeeding too – don’t worry folks, I’m all about breastfeeding if you can do it. I just believe that it’s a beautiful intimate moment between child and mother and doesn’t need to broadcast 24/7).
The funny thing about that reaction is it is the same whether I’m in a relationship or not. I could be “all boo-ed up”, as the kids say, and still be as grossed out. I’m all for love and I absolutely LOVE seeing people happy with their partners, but the constant online ogling just needs to stop.
I’m an open book to an extent, but this is where I draw the line. You’ll never see me posting a crap-ton of stuff about my partner because that is just between the two of us.
I can’t be the only one who is like this…I know I can’t be alone in thinking that the world has just gone nuts with the relationships bit online…
Tell me I’m not crazy folks!! =0)